Rules and principles of relative dating
I know this because a lot of readers send me pictures saying "I think I am an X out of 10, can you tell me what I really am?" Although I always refuse to give them my numerical opinion (because all men think differently), their guesses are usually very close to what I would have ranked them.So why would they set the bar so much higher than what they know they can get?Some might point out that their "delusion" is caused by their experiences getting men who are out of their league for sex and casual dating.We all know roughly what we could achieve, whether or not we have achieved it.Occasionally we modify this self-perception when we realize the extent of strengths we didn't know we had, or weaknesses that have greater implications than we'd imagined.But in general, we know ourselves well; we know what we are capable of becoming.
Women tend to be aware of and rate their looks fairly accurately.
The reason women can't get what they think they deserve is that we (men and women alike) always peg our standards to what we know we can be, not to what we are, while members of the opposite sex judge us - understandably - only on what we are currently.