Problems with dating divorced men
i have told him that i'll be in need of counselling to help me adjust once we get married (by the way, we're planning to get married in few months). My boyfriend (father of 2) felt somewhat guilty about not being able to keep his family together.He wanted to be 100% sure that I was right for his familym, not just him. I tried everything to make it work I married him, and we eventually had a son.The excuse well I got kids so youll always be second is lame.
I guess I just worry that this will be yet another relationship that just hurts in the end and was a waste of time. I've waited with marriage until I found someone I was really in love with. His two beautiful daughters I've come to love as my own. You might be happy now, but it's NOT worth the possible heartache. ☹️ ☹️ ☹️ It's been two months, I'm becoming stronger every day. Hi Troe -I just stumbled upon this website looking for advice on my relationship. It was love at first sight and we have been head over heels in love ever since. He usually has them on the weekends and some weeknights and I am never asked to join.
If you do end up with him, I'm sure it will be because he treats you right. I'd say that you should talk to him and let him know if he will be a part of you by a certain date (before your first anniversary would be good, I think, but you may choose one that you prefer). I'm interested in knowing how things have turned out for you? I don't want to succomb to my family's pressure but they are so right.
This is more about how long you want to wait rather than when he's supposed to decide. He was with his last gf for 5 years and never got married. I'm 29 with a man who is 42 years old with 3 kids (18,15,10).
It your happy right now, you should keep going with it. I feel like I am not included in the most important aspect of his and it hurts. I am an Asian, we don't believe in divorce and that sort of thing. I am in this dilemma as I am also not sure if we will have a good future together...he's hesitant to get married and not so sure of having another child.
Just remember that it is still the beginning and you might not end up with him anyway. Troe1113, I realize that the situations are not exactly the same, but you could be in for a long wait and not even know if he's going to involve you or not with his kids. We talk about it often but nothing has changed and he keeps telling me to be patient. I am 33 yrs old, never been married and want children of my own.
It is hard to think about being 2nd, but, if I had kids, they'd come first no matter what, so I love him all the more for getting his priorities straight. Kids are kids, but not forever, and they grow up fast, so give it time, and hopefully it'll work out for the best. I think now at the time I was vulnarable and lonely. Then he had another kid with some girl that he ahd a one night stand with. His baby mamas were terrible to me, always trying to start stuff to much drama I felt like I was on a continuous episode of Jerry Springer. I just want to say it may be great now, but hows it going to be 4 years from now. I wish I could say I had had my husbands first kid not his fourth. Mush as I wanted to accept all his flaws, he was so adamant to compromise anything. now I am very happy with my new man, very responsible, no exwife, no kids. Its the notion well I caught an ok fish but do I really want to put the effort in throwing it back so I can fish for something better. If you love someone but you arent sure then its not love Ive had to learn this.