1st dating tips
If you hate football don’t say that you can’t think of a better way to spend a Saturday afternoon, than cheering on Bristol City. If you’re not sure about someone, it may take two or three dates before you can really decide.
And if you work part-time in a call centre – don’t say you’re something big in communications. Try not to be too quick to judge or too fussy or rigid about what you are looking for in a potential partner.
Sex is a powerful bonder and if you sleep together on the first date it may blind you to any fundamental problems between you.
It helps if you can establish that there’s more to the relationship than just chemistry before ripping off each other’s clothes.
However, if your date asks you a direct question, such as, “Have you ever been married? The other person will feel flattered and special if you take the time to listen to them, ask them questions and draw them out.
I’m not suggesting that you don’t talk about yourself.
It is important that the other person has a chance to learn about you, but try and make sure that you are listening as much - or more - than you are talking. Don’t forget your manners Bad manners aren’t attractive and are likely to irritate your date.
Make sure you turn up on time and if you are going to be late for any reason, let them know.
It doesn’t cost you anything, and it will make a big difference to the other person’s enjoyment of the date. Early on in their relationship Jack said something like this to Susan: ‘I don’t know if we’ll get married in the future but I want to treat you so well that if we split up one day and you end up marrying someone else – I would be able to look the other guy in the eye, shake his hand and say: “Here is Susan, I looked after her for you.”’ They did end up marrying each other but I thought that was an amazing thing to say. But wouldn’t it be fantastic if people were better off in life from having spent time with you, not worse off?The key is to relax, enjoy yourself and not to analyse everything too much.